Many times when you ask a girl for WeChat or confess your love but are rejected, it’s not that there is really no possibility between you, but that you lose because of the sense of familiarity. Because girls naturally have a sense of repulsion towards unfamiliar people or things, you are easily rejected, so it is very important to establish a sense of familiarity with girls. What does familiarity mean? How to build familiarity with girls?
1. What does familiarity mean?
Familiarity is a concept that is easily overlooked in love. Many years ago, when love routines, sayings, routines, etc. were popular During that time, a lot of jokes were made. Most of the time, when you say these words, you haven't established a good sense of familiarity with the girl at all.
You and the girl are in a very stiff atmosphere, and both parties are on guard. Nothing you say can advance the relationship.
Therefore, when you try to increase your emotional feelings, it is almost necessary for both parties to establish a familiar feeling, otherwise everything will seem difficult to handle.
2. Does it take multiple meetings to achieve a sense of familiarity?
Familiarity does not necessarily require meeting with someone Girls need to meet many times to achieve or establish it. Of course, if you meet and get to know a girl many times, it will be easier to establish a sense of familiarity over time, but time is not the only indicator of establishing familiarity.
For example, during a date, you keep taking a girl around, each time going to a relatively unfamiliar environment, but you are the person he is relatively familiar with in the unfamiliar environment, then at this time You can quickly establish a sense of familiarity.
The establishment of a sense of familiarity is the emotional relaxation of both parties, which is related to the length of meeting, but it is not the only key factor.
3. How to establish a sense of familiarity with girls
1. Learn to break the ice and make small talk
Breaking the ice is actually a very simple and advanced technique. Sometimes breaking the ice is very simple. You just need to say hello to a girl and use some polite words.
The more in-depth thing is to chat with girls, talk about things that girls are interested in, or talk about things that are closely related to girls. For example, compliment a girl on her outfit. Ask if it's cold or hot, etc.
2. Observe carefully and pay attention to the girl’s condition
Sometimes when you meet a girl you are not familiar with, you need to observe her condition. For example, if a girl wears less clothes, you Try to find a way to get to a warm place. Or make a cup of hot tea for a girl. For example, if a girl's expression is obviously a little awkward, try to change the topic to some lighter topics and say some comforting words.
3. Be patient
If the first two points require you to have a good emotional intelligence and observation skills, then this point requires almost no effort on your part. You just need to restrain your impulsive thoughts, be patient, and let the girl have a process of adaptation to establish a sense of familiarity.
The words familiarity and comfort are almost the same in the artistic conception of love. It means the same thing. In most cases, the reason why you can't develop a relationship with a girl or break the polite atmosphere is because you don't have a good sense of familiarity.
