If boys want to truly improve their self-cultivation, they must first understand: What is the essence of EQ and IQ? Based on the whole process of chasing girls, we divide the level of emotional intelligence into five types. You can pretend you don't know anything. When interacting with girls, "calmness and composure" are the basis for effectively displaying seduction.

A boy's emotional intelligence level is positively related to his difficulty in chasing girls.

Boys with high emotional intelligence can effectively pursue girls they like, while boys with low emotional intelligence struggle to escape relationships.

If everyone thinks that chasing girls is difficult, then you have to realize that you must improve your emotional intelligence.

For most boys, "EQ and IQ" is a vague definition. They only know that high emotional intelligence means saying nice things and being funny.

In fact, it is just a superficial situation.

If boys want to truly improve their self-cultivation, they must first understand: What is the essence of EQ and IQ?

Based on the whole process of chasing girls, we divide the level of emotional intelligence into five types. You can pretend you don't know anything.

Level 1: Are you brave enough to chase girls?

There are also some introverted boys who don’t even have the courage to meet girls. Even when I saw a beautiful girl, my face turned red and I didn't have the courage to walk into the door of love.

Second Level: When interacting with girls, are you calm enough?

Only when girls show enough calmness and calmness can boys live their true selves and show their due allure.

Imagine if you are a salesperson, when you introduce a product to a customer, you are also very anxious, hesitant and paused. So, can customers appreciate their products?

Similarly, when dealing with girls, "calmness and composure" is the basis for effectively showing seduction.

Level 3: Can boys take the initiative in pursuing girls?

Many boys fail to pursue girls because they have a wrong understanding of "dominance".

“Domination” does not mean taking the initiative to interact with girls, nor does it take the initiative to confess to girls, but to actively and correctly guide the development trend of love.

Someone has said that chasing girls can be divided into several stages. Boys should know what to do at each stage, so as to promote the development of feelings. Only in this way can they correctly grasp the "dominance".

Judging from some small details of chasing girls, for example, after a girl is still struggling with what to eat, the man will take the initiative to share it with her.

For example, if two people plan to go on a trip, the man will actively prepare strategies so that the girl does not need to worry at all.

Both are signs of "dominance". Once a boy can understand "dominance", he will have strong confidence in the relationship.

Level 4: Do boys show enough emotional diversity?

Perhaps, some men will say: Simple, I love her so much, I really canTolerate her.

However, the characteristic of girls is "impulsiveness". Can you really tolerate her when she is in a bad mood?

Of course, "tolerance" does not mean "indulgence", it refers to a person's size.

For example, when a girl is in a bad mood and speaks with a certain attitude, men will think it is a trivial matter and will not care about her.

In fact, this "tolerance" mentality is a personal behavior with high emotional intelligence, whether it is looking at the girl you like or looking at others.

Level 5: In the process of chasing a girl, is the expression of love enough comfort?

If you observe carefully, you will find that in real life, most boys express their love to girls by just Can put pressure on him.

For example, after a brief acquaintance, you confess your love to a girl, or say some sweet words that are not suitable for the current stage of love.

Boys with truly high emotional intelligence know how to express love in every relationship and will not let girls feel all the work pressure.

In the initial stage, it only expresses interests and hobbies; in other people's links, it will express goodwill; in intimate links, it clearly expresses appreciation; some family affection will be appropriately released in more intimate relationship links.

In addition, to show love to a girl is not to say "I like you" in person, but in a more delicate way.

For example, in the "Attraction Automation" column, I mentioned the "outline" method of completion. Can a boy outline some scenes for a girl so that she can feel your affection for her from the scenes?

So in the process of chasing girls, the greater the boy's emotional intelligence, the higher the comfort the girl feels.

You can pretend to understand the above five EQ and IQ levels, so that you can better improve your EQ and IQ.

I have always emphasized that the underlying thinking behind chasing girls is "kinetic attraction." Let’s first interpret it from the perspective of “kinetic energy attracts each other”: How to improve emotional intelligence?

Looking at these five levels of EQ and IQ, we can find that the individual behavior of girls with high EQ depends largely on whether boys can "enjoy the moment", while the individual behavior of girls with low EQ depends to a large extent. , it's always "fighting".

So the way for boys to improve their self-cultivation is to learn to enjoy the moment.

Based on the above five points, we have interpreted the specific methods.

When getting to know a girl, a boy should realize his self-confidence instead of worrying about how the woman will feel. This is also the source of "courage".

When interacting with girls, boys should learn to enjoy the current atmosphere instead of worrying about saying the wrong thing and thinking about how to perform better, enjoy the moment and experience the surrounding environment. This is the true meaning of "taking your time".

In pursuit of a girl’s perfection, boys must know how to enjoy the core love development trend instead of falling into the trap of trying to please.There is no need to let a girl's every move seriously affect your normal life. This is where the emotional intelligence of “dominance” comes into play.

In the process of chasing girls, boys must learn to enjoy the feeling of loving someone instead of being petty towards her. Since we love, we should be tolerant.

At the same time, boys should know how to enjoy the whole process of chasing a girl. Even if you have strong feelings for her, you will restrain your feelings; even if she doesn't love you, you can't attribute it to her. Both people feel comfortable in such a relationship.

"Hitting in a nest" is a low-energy move. You can think about it carefully. Do you often encounter "fighting" in the process of chasing girls?

Sometimes, because we change our logical thinking and learn to experience the process of chasing girls, you will find that "chasing girls" is not as difficult as you thought.

People who have high-efficiency energy in their hearts are bound to be more popular with girls.