Perhaps boys feel that they get along well with girls, and girls are very enthusiastic about them. If this development trend continues, being with girls will be natural. But I didn't expect that the girl's attitude towards you suddenly changed. What should you do to change the situation when a girl suddenly turns from enthusiastic to cold?
1. Understand the golden window period
In fact, boys and girls usually have a dull period after a hot chat. This is normal, and it is also a time when girls test you. Because you have already talked about all the topics that should be talked about in the early stage, and the topics between boyfriend and girlfriend are not suitable to talk about now, it is easy for the chat to fall into a dead end. This is the golden window period for interactions between men and women, during which men and women interact frequently, and girls are more interested in boys. Send messages and get replies instantly, making dating easier. Maybe you missed this window period. The window period may last less than a month, but once missed, it will be difficult to open. You need to work several times harder to get a chance of survival.
The question now is, how to make girls interested in you again after missing the window period, and gradually return to the previous state?
2. Do you really like her?
When a girl suddenly turns from enthusiastic to cold, do you want to go? Before you redeem her, you have to think calmly, do you really understand her? Is she really the girl you like? Do you like her for herself or can't you give up on your devotion to her? Can I change her to someone more beautiful than her? If you had a more exciting chat with another girl, would you still be unable to let her go?
Many times, what we can’t let go of may be our own contributions. This kind of payment is called sunk cost in economics. For example, you spent 70 yuan to watch a movie, but halfway through it you felt it was unsatisfactory. At this time, would you turn around and walk away, or would you watch it patiently? Sunk costs cannot be recovered, what you pay is what you pay. If your answer to the above questions is: Actually, I don’t like it that much, just try another one. Then letting go decisively is the best strategy.
Because if you want to return to the previous state of deep love and mist, the effort you put in may be several times that of before. So this multiple times of hard work is enough for you to get to know several girls again. You can completely grasp the new golden window period and use your previous experiences and lessons to pick up a more beautiful girl. Yes, in this case, it may just be to find a girlfriend.
3. Improve yourself
Perhaps after careful consideration, you feel that your answer is true If you like her and she is the only one, then the first thing you should do is to improve yourself. Because you were treated coldly by her before, and now no matter how nice you are to her, she just doesn't appreciate it. After working hard for a long time, but not being able to embrace the beauty, this kind of frustration is really uncomfortable.
Now that you don't get what you ask for, and your relationship is cold, first of all, don't feel sorry for yourself or feel sorry for yourself. Change your hairstyle, change your mood, change your mindset. Reflect on your mistakes. Girls don’t like purposeful contact. Are you too purposeful? Or did she offend her unintentionally? Frivolous language? Misbehaving? These are things you need to reflect on. You can also learn a home-cooked dish or learn a musical instrument, which will have a strange effect on you the next time you come into contact with her. Make yourself better and worth relying on. Finally, slowly get in touch as ordinary friends, haste makes waste.
When a girl suddenly turns from enthusiastic to cold, it can be seen that the girl actually had expectations for you in the beginning, and you need to understand that. If she is being cold to you because your words or actions offend her, then you can make targeted changes.
