Do you feel that you have a crush on the other person? There are indeed signs that we have a crush on someone, but this "sign" is not specific to "which words you will say" or "which things you will do." So true love can be felt. So what does it look like to truly love someone? You will start to act around the three aspects of desire, atmosphere, and resonance.

1. First of all, desire

The desire I am talking about here does not only refer to sexual desire. This desire does not mean frivolity, nor is it dirty. It may start from sexual desire. , but its extension is much broader than physical desire. For example, a girl takes a photo and posts it on her WeChat Moments, and a man leaves a message: You are so beautiful.

Is this desire? yes.

This kind of desire starts from the gender difference between men and women. There may be a "biological impulse", but it is just a beginning. When it is transformed into the behavior of "praising you for your beauty", it adds more pairs of girls. appreciation, praise and love. At this time, the proportion of physiological impulse is very small.

When you really have a crush on someone, your "desire for love" is directly expressed. Can the other person feel it? This kind of "love" expressed directly can be felt by everyone who can see it.

Second, let’s talk about the atmosphere

Secret love requires the blessing of a comfortable environment. We often When choosing a partner, you will want to find someone who has "feelings". So what does it feel like to have feelings? To put it bluntly, it means that two people can communicate without any barriers and get along happily. In short, they feel comfortable being with this person.

This is the "atmosphere". Can feeling and atmosphere be equated? Neither can. Because the "feeling" is affected by external factors, but the real "atmosphere" belongs only to the two of you. The words and actions of the two of you are what make up the "atmosphere".

When you really have a crush on someone, you want the "atmosphere of love" to be filled in a straight line. You will definitely try to make every date very rich and fun, and find ways to make every moment you spend together I am happy every second, can the other party feel it? Anyone with happy emotions can feel it.

3. The last thing is resonance

What is resonance? That’s what everyone says: understand me. To put it simply, your emotions vibrate at the same frequency and you "resonate". This is a form of emotional connection based on emotional ties.

To give a common example in life, a couple is in love. The woman is crying and telling the man that she feels aggrieved after being reprimanded at work. After hearing this, the man says to the woman: Then why don’t you just work hard? No more training?

There is no doubt that the two will quarrel. Because a man does not resonate with a woman, he sees her feeling wrongedCrying, but I don't understand why she is crying, and I don't understand how sad she is at this moment.

But true love resonates between two people. He would put himself in the shoes of the woman at that time, experience her sorrow and sadness of being scolded, and be deeply involved in this love with the woman. Emotionally, and then find a way out together in this "darkness".

To truly love someone is to be willing to try your best to understand the other person's emotions, share the other person's emotions, enter the other person's inner world with empathy, put yourself into the same sad state as the other person, and feel the other person's emotions. The state of mind, accompany her, comfort her.

Faced with such "resonance", can the other party feel it? Anyone with a heart can feel it.

Finally, if you really have a crush on someone, the other person will definitely feel it.