No matter how rich a person is in love and how many relationships he has experienced, he will inevitably go through a period of pain and depression after falling out of love before he can face it calmly. People who have fallen out of love will inevitably go through the following stages:

1. Emotional excitement period

When When your partner says, "Let's break up," more than a dozen negative emotions such as doubt, unwillingness, sadness, and annoyance will emerge in your heart.

At this moment of denial, you will feel all the blood condensing in your heart, a heart-wrenching and uncontrollable pain.

You will be unusually sad or unusually calm. You will feel like you are the only one left in this world, and you will not be able to listen to anyone’s advice or reasoning. Because there is only one thought in your mind: I want to see her.

Later, you will frantically want to know why your ex broke up with you. Even though you get a painless answer, you still can't get rid of a trace of sadness.

Most people tend to have behavioral reactions such as alcoholism, insomnia, and depression. Because of the pain of being abandoned, even breathing sometimes hurts.

In fact, this kind of extreme emotion after a breakup is unavoidable for most people. Being "abandoned" will cause people to instantly lose their sense of belonging, causing the heart's pulse to stall and causing hypoxic pain. This is why falling out of love can feel like a needle pricking the heart.

The "emotional agitation period" after a breakup will last about 2 hours to 3 days. During this period, physical discomfort is also dominant. You won't be able to stop yourself from crying, and you won't be able to stop yourself from missing the other person.

2. Nervous Sensitive Period

At this time, you will secretly pay attention to your ex’s life without realizing it. Open your ex’s Moments and Weibo. You will stay up all night because of your ex's undirected behavior, and you will often fantasize about "what would have happened if we hadn't broken up."

At this stage, your emotions gradually calm down and you can face life with a calm mood.

But your nerves are in an extremely sensitive state. Every time your ex changes his profile picture or posts a Weibo post, you will involuntarily make assumptions about it. Even though you know it in your heart, this content seems to have nothing to do with you.

So you start to blame yourself for being "worthless", and you start to blame yourself, "Why can your ex let go of you so easily, but why can't you let go of her?" You start to force yourself to let go, but the result is often counterproductive. .

The more you force yourself to forget, the harder it will be for you to forget.

During this period, you appear optimistic and calm, but your body functions begin to betray you. Losing the love of life, you gradually become anorexic and depressed, reject social interaction, and begin to enjoy being alone. Laughing and crying sometimes, you begin to miss the time you spent together, and you also begin to wonder, "How can I live without her?"

3. Numbness and compromise period

At this stage, you begin to gradually accept the fact that you are single. .

Your attitude towards this relationship is no longer so sensitive, but instead you will usher in a kind of numbness after extreme sadness. But this does not mean that I have given up, but that I am tired and can no longer cry.

What you see at this time is not the beauty of the past, but you start to calmly reflect on yourself and re-examine your shortcomings in the previous relationship. Start thinking about "what really caused the breakup" and "how to correct your shortcomings in the future."

Although this stage is a period of emotional numbness and compromise, it is more like the maturity stage after you have fallen out of love.

You are no longer like a child crying because of the loss of a beloved toy. Instead, you can look at the failed relationship calmly and rationally. You start to think about a question: "Should I save you? Is this person worth saving?"

During the period of numbness and compromise, you begin to deliberately change yourself in life and avoid your own personality. At the same time, he also began to actively integrate into various social activities, gradually being able to accept the shadow of lovelorn, and also trying to get himself out of the shadow of lovelorn.

What I mentioned above is a positive mentality change, and you may also move towards more negative emotions.

You may no longer believe in love, reject the opposite sex even more, reject all social interactions that you think are meaningless, and start to face life like a zombie with a mask on. You will have low self-esteem and fear of being alone, but you are unwilling to get rid of negative emotions.

You begin to enjoy the pain of broken love. You want to live in the past, unable to accept your future self, and unwilling to reconcile with your past self.

4. Relief period/recovery period

　·If you choose to let go

That means you are starting to gradually let go of your ex. Although you still have thoughts in your heart, you are gradually starting to come into contact with other people of the opposite sex.

You no longer deliberately exclude other members of the opposite sex from showing affection to you, and your life is no longer dominated by your ex. You begin to become positive and optimistic, and gradually begin to enrich your life and adapt to an independent and lonely life.

You start to watch movies alone, eat alone, play games alone...Those things that were unacceptable to you in the past are not so bad in the relief period.

You begin to no longer miss and let go of your ex, and at the same time you begin to look forward to thoseA fate that has not yet appeared.

After this repeated emotional ups and downs, you begin to choose to believe in love again, trying to make yourself better, so as to meet the opposite sex with better quality in the future.