When there is a problem in a marriage, if you ignore it, the marriage will end up broken. Everything you have needs to be paid for. Repairing a marriage requires action. It is not just a few words that can save the marriage and then reconcile it as before. .

1. Honesty and Frankness

The first step to repair a marriage is to rebuild trust, and the best The way is to be honest and frank with each other. In the process of honesty and confession, every time the cheating party discloses more details, the betrayed party may be surprised and angry. At this time, the cheating party feels the betrayed party’s motivation to accuse, and they will start to be afraid and hide. He is afraid that he will be labeled "I was wrong" again, and next time, he may not say anything to you.

2. Get rid of obsession and rebuild trust

When the other party is honest and frank, or you know that honesty and frankness is the most important quality for the subsequent restoration of your marriage, you Got it, but you must also pay attention to this: you need to get rid of your obsession with frankness and honesty. While it's important to be honest and forthcoming, if your partner isn't honest and forthcoming right now, it's okay to set a boundary and wait. Or if you give a little permission, it may be that the relationship between you is not strong enough, or the sense of security you give the other person is not enough, and the tolerance is not enough. Therefore, you first allow him to be cowardly and lack courage. Maybe I can't fully confess to you yet.

3. Return to daily life

The third step is to return to daily life. At this step, we need to have a basic understanding, that is, we first established an intimate relationship when we were close, and then we got to know each other's family and friends, entered each other's friend circles, and understood each other's work. , and then you have children, it’s like this, from the core intimate relationship to the peripheral relationship with relatives and friends, right? Only after having an intimate relationship can you have the so-called daily life.

4. Promote positive communication

The fifth step of repair is to promote positive communication. This includes the following two points.

The first point is love that hits the bullseye. What does this mean? It means that you have to give the other person the love, satisfaction, and attention they need, instead of giving the other person the love, attention, and satisfaction you think you need. At the same time, you can also take the initiative to let the other person know what your real needs and feelings are, and give the other person what they really need. This is called "hitting the target". That is when two people truly have a relationship and are truly together. .

The second point is to discover something about the other person that you never knew about. Everyone wears a mask, and only when facing someone they completely trust will they reveal their true self.On the other hand, in some marriages, some people still cannot show their true selves. When there is a problem in the marriage, if you don’t care about the real her, how can you repair the relationship between each other?

5. Love and self-love

In fact, it means that we must learn to empathize with each other. But you can't fill the void in others' hearts when you can't fill it in yourself.

If a person blindly puts himself in other people’s shoes before he is satisfied, there must still be an unsatisfied hole behind him.

Therefore people often say, “Before you learn to love others, you must first know how to love yourself”!