How to fall in love correctly? How to fall in love for a long time. This type of question is what many friends want to figure out. Today we will talk about this topic. No, a fan asked, should I get to the bottom of my girlfriend’s past? Let me tell you my own opinion first.

1. Repeatedly dwelling on what has happened will never be solved

Your girlfriend has If you have an ex who you have been dating for many years, no matter how much you like it, these things were all left before she dated you, so it is the "past tense" of what happened in the past, which is unsolvable.

But if the other party has made a substantial transgression, such as actively contacting the other party and breaking the connection, then you need to show your cards clearly, express your anger, and state that this kind of behavior will not be allowed to happen again. Break up immediately.

Because this is the "progressive tense" that is happening now, it has a solution.

Therefore, when dealing with your girlfriend’s ex, you must first distinguish whether what is causing you trouble and pain at this time is the past tense or the ongoing tense?

2. When the water is clear, there will be nothing. Fish

No relationship can withstand repeated filtering. If you dig too much, you will most likely be disappointed.

Just like communication and showdown can solve more than 90% of the problems in a relationship, then the remaining 10% are their own secrets that cannot be told even to death. Therefore, it is very important to put away your curiosity.

People are "forced" to become anxious and lie, even to the point of fearing themselves. Many times, we need to keep some flexibility in our relationships. The more you care about the past that has happened, and the more you repeatedly mention your ex to a girl, you are actually unconsciously helping the other person relive and strengthen the memory of your ex. This has only disadvantages and no advantages to the stability of your current relationship.

So, when you are wondering whether you should get to the bottom of her past, you can refer to the above two points. If you really care about this issue, then you have two choices before you:

1. Dump her directly and find a woman with no past at all. (But in my opinion, such women are almost extinct now~~~)

2. Continue to be with her, provided that she treats you well.

But you need to make it clear to her:

"Where are your boundaries, where are your bottom lines, and what are the red lines in your relationship with her? What is the relationship between her and this ex? You will definitely not accept any kind of contact between her. "

After setting the rules and limiting her behavior within the red lines, everyone can continue to manage themselves happily. little love.

Both of these paths can be taken, you can choose your ownHave chosen. But the most fearful thing is that while you are with her, you are also concerned about her past. This not only makes you very tired, but also makes her very tired, and wastes the sweet relationship between the two people in vain. Isn’t this just spending time making yourself uncomfortable? Why bother!