Every boy hopes that his significant other is an excellent girl. However, many boys will always face various problems when chasing girls who are better than themselves, and find it difficult to make girls better than themselves like them. So how do you chase girls who are better than you?
1. Show scarcity value
< p> People's existence cannot be perfect. Even if the overall value of the girl you like is much higher than yours, she cannot be better than you in every aspect, and some of your values ??may be able to make up for this gap.A good relationship is "similar in outlook, but complementary in value." If you can analyze her shortcomings, find the points where you can complement each other, amplify them, and learn from each other's strengths, you will not only make your heart more loving Being strong makes it easier to get along with each other, and it can also directly level the difference in value, without causing high or low issues in the relationship.
For example, if, like in "The Son-in-Law", the family conditions of boys and girls are very different, if the boys are still working hard on the same values, it will be difficult for the relationship between the two to develop further. To put it bluntly, no one can compare with her family background.
So what should we do? If the wealth they possess does not match, then show her your "wealth creation potential" and other advantages; if you feel that the other party is much higher than you in terms of image conditions, why not show her your "wealth creation potential" and other advantages? It’s okay for her to provide emotional value.
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2. Increase emotional value
OK, let’s continue to analyze the “emotional value” that girls want. ", what exactly is it?
Emotional value, in one sentence, is whether a girl is happy in the process of getting along with you. There are many ways to make someone happy, ranging from telling a joke to helping her realize a wish.
But anyone can do these things. The emotional value of the advanced version is that you provide emotional value that others cannot provide and engage in non-homogeneous competition. For example:
If others are still chatting with girls on WeChat, you can send them Voice; they have video calls with girls, and you directly ask the girls out; they only make girls happy, but you have the ability to turn a girl's bad mood into a good mood.
Here I would like to share with my friends an idea of ??providing emotional value.
In fact, in a healthy marriage and love relationship, each of us will play three roles: elder, lover, and child in front of the other half. The elder will give the other half obedient love, the lover will give her a little lingering care, and the child Arousing the compassion of her father's love and mother's love.
Love, the so-called love, can be understood as the emotional value (emotional value) that (girls) love. If you are not confident in the hard value match between you, then work more on the emotional value.
Providing appropriate emotional value needs to be combined with the two people’s relationship patterns and relationship progress. You can add mine and explain your situation in detail. Let me help you.
3. Improvement of self-worth
Again, the essence of a well-matched match is the matching of values. If you really feel that the value gap between two people is huge, whether it is to show that the scarce value complements each other, or to find another way to provide emotional value, in the final analysis, you still have to improve your own value.
Whatever is lacking, make up for it, both internally and externally.
For example, if you study hard, work hard, and pursue a career, you let everyone see your progress. To put it bluntly, you should do this even if you are not chasing girls.
This process will definitely be painful, but it is also the only way for men to mature. Some people believe that the source of men's struggle is because of women. In order to find a woman who is more suitable for him and to give her a better life, this is the instinct written in the genes.
Everyone has their own opinion on this point of view, but boys should fight not only to live a better life and realize their self-worth, but also to not flinch when they meet true love. This is definitely true.
Just like the protagonist of the son-in-law, he discovers that if he fails to live up to his expectations, he will still be looked down upon by others until the day he dies.
Love cannot be too utilitarian, but practical factors need to be considered. If you fall in love with a girl who has better conditions than yourself, and this girl happens to love you too and even takes you to make progress together, then that is naturally a very beautiful thing.
The most fearful thing is that it is over in your heart before it even begins. You fall in love with a girl who has better conditions than you. You are afraid that you will be looked down upon and that you will be thought to have some agenda. You dare not face it or even try.