Nowadays, girls are becoming more and more difficult to chase. Many boys don’t dare to take the initiative to chase the girl they like. They are afraid that if they take the initiative, they will lose their value and become a bitch. However, this is not actually taking the initiative. It’s because the pursuit method is wrong. So what is the correct way to pursue a girl? Here are 4 tips to help you take the initiative in love.

1. Improve yourself

People like partners with good looks. On the one hand, they are visually Getting enjoyment, on the other hand, brings you face and great satisfaction to your vanity.

Everyone has this kind of vanity. Of course, it’s not just about appearance, it’s also about the inside.

Since everyone is the same, when you want to find a better partner, the other person will also demand better from you. Therefore, improving oneself is an eternal truth that makes oneself more valuable.

Although you don’t want to admit it, you have to say that satisfying the other person’s vanity is a kind of preconception, and your pursuit will be more likely to succeed.

When it comes to improving yourself, it seems like a big cage has dropped from the sky, suffocating people. In fact, there is no need to put so much psychological pressure on yourself. Who said that to improve yourself, you have to be omnipotent and perfect?

I know a girl who is very beautiful and likes to take pictures. Her boyfriend I don't know how to take pictures when I'm chasing her, and the pictures are often either blurry or ugly.

Then he secretly searched for tutorials on the Internet and taught himself. In just 2 months, he made rapid progress. Girls often post photos of themselves taken by boys on Weibo, which are really as good as professional photographers.

Look at people, although it is the power of love that makes you improve, but you also get love through this skill, isn’t it the best of both worlds?

This is skill and love.” "Talk to each other" will make girls appreciate and rely on you more. At this time, you will be a person who can give the other party a high emotional value.

Of course, we don’t have to cater to girls’ preferences. You can also cater to your own preferences. For example, if you like playing basketball, then work hard to improve your skills. Think about one day when you defeat all your opponents in front of girls, wouldn’t that be cool?

2. Praise each other, Improve favorability

The easiest thing to get happiness is to be praised. Just like a girl is good-looking. Even if she is praised by dozens of people every day, she will still be very happy next time she hears it. . This is the endowment of emotional value.

Boys who can praise others must have high emotional value.

Of course, praising others also requires skills. It would be bad if the flattery fails to capture the horse's hooves.

So how can you praise the other person deeply and make them like getting along with you?

First, praise the details. When many boys compliment someone, they just say, "You are so beautiful." Even if you are sincere, it's okay once or twice, but if you do it every time, girls will definitely be boring, and they may even think you are too perfunctory.

Therefore, you should always find the details of the other party that are worthy of praise. For example:

"Hey, today is different. I've never seen you wearing this type of clothes. It's so cool."

"I noticed that you seem to like it a lot. Wearing a beret suits you very well. You feel gentle and well-behaved."

"You are so good at matching. You give people a different feeling every day."

" Dress brightly today, just look at your mood."

Second, be sincere. A few days ago, I saw a series of couples chatting on Weibo. The topic was "How perfunctory can boys be?"

I really laughed out loud after watching this. Let’s take a look at the picture above to give you a feel.

Concern and praise can actually be perfunctory.

Look, these are all negative teaching materials. To sum up their problem: they are not serious!!!

Really, it is better not to praise at all than to praise them embarrassingly.

In addition, when praising girls, don’t make up lies just to please them. For example, if a girl is obviously a little fat, you don't have to say she is thin. You can say she has good skin and is cute, or just say she is a little thinner than before. Otherwise, this kind of behavior of playing disco on a girl's hot spot is a bit dangerous.

3. Push-pull strategy to create a sense of freshness

Taking the initiative does not mean blindly trying to please, you have to learn to push and pull There is a degree.

What does it mean?

It means that when two people get along, they should retreat and advance. When you advance, let the other person feel your enthusiasm, and when you retreat, let the other person see it. I feel your charm and take the initiative to get close to you.

Just like ballroom dancing, when one party advances, the other party retreats. Both people can show their own charm. This kind of dance is harmonious and beautiful.

When you are in love, you can express your good feelings to the other person, and you can devote energy and material to the other person, but at the same time, you should restrain yourself appropriately and focus on managing your own charm, so that the other person can take the initiative to discover you. ’s shining point.

This is what we often call appropriately creating a sense of mystery. Only by frequently showing your fresh side in front of the other person can the other person remain curious about you for a long time.

Then the question is, how to create a sense of mystery?

For example: don’t tell her every trivial matter; occasionally create surprises; you can leave pictures and copywriting when posting in Moments. A little suspense. Just like this:

"Keep a normal heart, and life will reallySurprises arise. ”

See if she will take the initiative to ask, what kind of surprise is it?

4. Reduce the output of negative emotions

Being unable to control your own negative emotions is a manifestation of the opposite of creating high emotional value.

Your negative emotions will make people around you feel depressed. , and then instinctively flee. Therefore, it is difficult for people with high negative emotions to provide high emotional value to others.

So what should I do if I am a person with high negative emotions?

Don’t worry, try to integrate into an optimistic environment. Spend more time with optimistic and positive friends around you, feel the source of their happiness, and cultivate your own optimistic attitude.

The most important thing is to find your own negative emotions. The causes should be overcome and improved in a targeted manner.

As for love, everyone wants to find a better partner, so first make yourself better. It will be passed on to the people around you, and it will also attract more positive energy.

Therefore, I hope that everyone can be a positive self, be a person with love in their hearts, and attract someone as beautiful as you as soon as possible. That her!