There is no doubt that when you are chasing a girl, you should be nice to her, but if you treat her too well with an attitude of giving without expecting anything in return, it is completely unnecessary.
If you do this, not only will you not be able to catch her in the end, you will even lose her.
Because human nature has a common problem, that is, trying to get too far. According to psychology, when you first get to know someone, don’t be too nice to them at the beginning, otherwise, your relationship will be difficult to get along with in the future. Because human nature determines that you will not cherish things and things that are easily obtained without paying any price.
It’s like you have worked countless days and nights to finally get into a prestigious university. You must cherish the opportunity to study in this school. When you are a little slack or naughty, the teacher will If you use the threat of not being able to graduate, you will give in strangely. You are very afraid that you will not get your diploma because you have paid too much.
And you plan to do part-time work during the summer vacation, handing out flyers, and doing odd jobs. You may have done something wrong after just two days on the job. If your boss scolds you, you can just quit. Because this kind of job is easy to find, and you don’t have to pay any deposit. At most, it doesn’t matter to you during the day for two days, because you haven’t paid anything, so you are willing to take it.
The same is true when chasing girls!
If you pay before you get her, The more she wants, the more unwilling you are, and the more unwilling you are, the more you will invest. What you invest may be money (buy her gifts and treat her to dinner) or dignity (kneel down and lick her to please her without any limit). When you invest these When you don’t get a return, you will continue to invest, and then fall into a vicious cycle~
The relationship between the sexes needs to be balanced!
The most important thing when chasing girls is to Have your own attitude, and you should take what you give. If you are good to her, you need to respond and be rewarded. Unrequited love is actually wishful thinking. This return does not mean that if you give her a gift, she will give you a gift, or if you treat her to dinner, she will treat you to a movie. This reward can be material or emotional.
Times have changed. If it were 20 years ago, it was still the era of true equality between men and women. Maybe you would treat a girl to a meal. , she will also treat you in return.
But in this era, when men and women date, it is natural for men to spend money, so this method is not very correct.
But emotional investment is also needed. For example, let the other party call you to wake up, or ask the other party to do some small things for you. Another example is, you always take the initiative to find her every day, and occasionally ask her to take the initiative to chat with you. If you take the initiative to say hello to a girl every day, and She neverIf she has never taken the initiative for you, then you can conclude that she must not like you!
An attractive man must always know how to maintain a balance in the relationship between two people!
Two people Love is like a scale. If you love her 70%, she can only love you 30%. At this time, you will cherish her more and become more nervous. The more nervous you are, the more you care. Eventually, because you push too hard, the other person will feel disgusted, bored, and even leave you.
Therefore, when chasing a girl, be sure not to try too hard to please her. More often, we need to learn to let go and give ourselves space. Spend more time with friends, and even get to know more friends of the opposite sex to create a sense of urgency for each other. It’s not that you can’t live without her, it’s not that you can’t live without her. And you always have an equal relationship, and this is the key to chasing her!
