Xiao Liu is 32 years old today. Although his conditions are good and his salary is not low, he has never been able to find a girlfriend. It is not that he has never met a girl he likes, but basically every relationship has not yet It failed at the beginning, so I sighed, "Why can't I find a girlfriend even though I have good conditions?"

Next, based on Xiao Liu’s situation, we will analyze why those boys who are obviously good-looking and have good conditions can never find a girlfriend.

1. The initiator of being single

At first, Xiao Liu wanted a girlfriend with both body and image. To meet his standards, your academic qualifications must match his, and your job must be suitable for you. He believes that only with this kind of relationship, being together is a true union, and love will develop in a good direction.

But now, Xiao Liu can only find his girlfriend through blind date software. Someone finally introduced him to a girlfriend before.

But he is always busy with his work. When he encounters a problem, he always solves it with his own ideas and doesn’t care about the other person’s emotions at all. After the two of them got along for about three months, the girl Because she couldn't stand Xiao Liu's attitude towards her, she chose to break up.

But Xiao Liu didn’t take it seriously, feeling that the other person didn’t cherish him, and the other person would definitely regret it. However, as he got older, he became really anxious.

In the end, it came to the point that every girlfriend of Xiao Liu did not meet his standards, and every girl who stayed with him would never survive more than half a year, and would definitely break up within half a year.

In fact, Xiao Liu’s emotional state is also a common problem for most single men. In fact, it has nothing to do with material things, but no one will look for problems within themselves, and no one will take the initiative to take responsibility.

And they will shift the problem to problems that cannot be solved at the current stage, such as: houses, cars, deposits, etc., in order to maintain their own image. In fact, they cannot find a girlfriend. The reasons, generally speaking, are the following:

2. Unable to recognize oneself, and the standard for choosing a mate is too high

Many people will make this mistake, thinking that only the woman they like, their ideal woman, is worthy of being their girlfriend. They pay attention to the right match. They think that they are good enough, so the woman who accompanies them must be equally good.

In fact, this kind of standard for choosing a spouse is pathological. Just like what was said before: "City people look down on rural people, and office workers look down on migrant workers." They cannot recognize themselves clearly and habitually He placed himself in too high a position.

But in fact, everyone in a relationship is equal and can make up for each other’s shortcomings. Maybe youYou are stronger than the other party, but the other party must also be better than you in some aspects. The combination of the two is a whole.

So it’s not that you can’t find a girlfriend, it’s because there’s something wrong with your vision and your concept of relationships has undergone abnormal changes. You have to know that the reason why two people start a relationship is because It's because attracting each other can make each other better. It is not like an exam. Only when you meet a certain standard can you be qualified and outstanding.

3. Selfish personality only cares about one's own feelings

In relationships, selfish personality is It is very common and one of the easiest reasons for relationship problems. Because everyone has a sense of gain and loss, they will think that as long as they pay, they should get something in return. Therefore, when you are managing your relationship, you will find that you are giving more and more. As time goes by, you will think more and more about yourself. You are always worried that the other party will not be able to give you corresponding rewards.

So you will become very selfish, always acting according to your own ideas, wanting to guide the other person and love you according to your thinking. Give you more feedback, but you ignore that the other person loves you from the heart.

It is not guided. When you always solve the problem according to your own ideas, you will ignore the other person's emotions, let the other person's negative emotions continue to accumulate, and even make her suspicious. You had a purpose in everything you did for her.

Gradually, she will lose her original enthusiasm for you, and your relationship will fall into the pattern of "you must be rewarded for your efforts", allowing the relationship to slowly develop into a morbid state. If the other person cannot feel pleasure and relaxation from you, then she will naturally choose to leave you.

In fact, women nowadays do not worship money, nor do they have to ask for a house or a car. You just don’t dare to take responsibility and don’t want to change yourself, so you take the standards of marriage and regard them as your own. Excuses and reasons to prove that you are a good man, but you have to remember that love is never bought or based on material things. As long as you dare to take responsibility and recognize your own value, then maybe you will too Have an enviable love.